self growth

great help for natural stress relief

pet therapy

I just wanted to mention this innovative method researchers have found to deal with stress. PET THERAPY . It is dramatic the affect pets have on people with adrenal deficiency, and high anxiety levels. I think a lot of people feel that pets would be more stress, more money ., more work. I wont deny they are that ,however the amount of joy and relief they bring to us , far outweighs the negative . The pros out way the cons on this one.I truly trust in pet therapy , I am going to try to get a friend of mine to add a tidbit in here on that.
However if you truly do not think you can take of a pet , then PLEASE DO NOT get one . There has to be a responsibility factor here.
There are way too many homeless, loveless , brown eyed , needy pets in shelters waiting for their ultimate demise.
SO this a hard decision , but one to be taken into consideration.

for all the pet owners out there -animals truly take the edge off

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These are my Rules -- follow them for stress reduction.

1. Try , really hard.. to work no more that 10 hrs a day ! 
2. Have at least 1.5 days off .--no work related tasks anyhow  
3. allow at least 1/2 hr for a meal - enjoy it , savour each bite - don't think about anything but your meal.  
4. eat is slowly - chew well - helps with digestion. seriously.  
5. try really hard to listen to some relaxing music - I personally love rock- classic rock however I will listen to music with no words , just nice rhythms . If you are not listening to the lyrics you can totally mind wash.  
6. practice meditation /relaxation techniques (check out my relaxation blog for tips  http:kymmer7.webs.com  )  - at least 2 times daily for 15 mins - I know this is hard, very. however even when you are  driving car to work..  put on a relaxing c.d and don't think about anything causing anxiety  - I will count that as  1 . 
7. ok - this one is hard , for me anyhow-  try to walk , and talk and more slowly-  there is no need to always be in a rush-  slow and deliberate  - concentrate on your words and your strides  -    just try this - it takes the edge off .  In cultivating these steps you  seem more relaxed , even if your not there yet - you are perceived that way.  
8. smile  - respond with kindness to people .. it comes back two-fold.   It makes you feel good about yourself -  
9. plan one trip a year  - not work related - a relaxing , get a way from it all vacation- Don't let financial issues bog you down here  - I know you are all out there saying , come on Kymm we don't have that kind of money -  well first of all, this is one of the most important expenditures of the year-  this is pertinent .   Your well -being depends and deserves this.We  all work hard, we all deserve a get-away  -- DESERVE -  (you can plan a retreat to go camping, or a couple of days at  a cheaper lodging , as long as you  are away from it all. 
10. Exercise, I am not going into too much detail here, we all know how essential excercise is! I am going to blog about some great relaxing exercises later on.  
11. please , please watch what you eat-- I know we all love our treats - however moderation moderation .. moderation-  having  a  nice glass of red wine, or a  piece of chocolate, or a hamburger is a great release- however the normal diet should be high in fruits, veggies and lean protein -- it helps so much when your digestion system is not taxed .  Plus the energy you get from eating well helps alot  in combating stress. 
12. Being a stress consultant , I can help people more 1 on 1 with this one... but please get help if something like mental issues (depression) or relationship woes  are weighing you down . it is like walking around with a dark storm cloud over your head.. all the time.. 
13. If you are unhappy are work look for alternatives  - I know this is hard.. we will touch on this one later .. 
14. everyone has a hobby - something they enjoy doing - the key is to truly cultivate it.. work on it - if you enjoy painting then for goodness sakes paint- do not put it off , saying ah well I don't have time - That is a cop-out.    Doing something you enjoy , even if it is as simple as loving American Idol - ( I love that show) , then love it.. Don't make excuses saying oh I should not indulge myself is some silly show I need to be more productive-  I say come on . watch the show , enjoy it , sit back..   
15. do YOGA - I cannot push this enough!  if anyone out there reading this knows any good yoga programs online please post on this blog ! Get a message , not everyday , just when you can   .   Even if it is from your partner - promise  something in return. 
16. Concentrate on the here and the  now  -  do not DWELL on the past ..you cannot change it everyone makes mistakes  -learn from them and move on . Dwelling on the past are those mind toxins I was talking about earlier - They hinder us substantially.   
17. Express your feelings  - I am not talking about being all dramatic and sappy - Just say what you feel ... especially to people you love.. this helps so much in getting your resentments out , again MIND TOXINS. 
18. Don't set yourself up to fail it only weighs on you heavily and causes you to think poorly of yourself  when you don't succeed.   Make realistic  goals ,tasks and deadlines.   
19. BIG ONE HERE  !! DO not rely on drugs , alcohol, blaming others..or any other  props - in order to cope . ACCEPT full responsibility for your life...  hear what I am saying here ..YOUR life..    not your employers, your spouse , your parents, your children -- your life. When you have a certain ACCOUNTABILITY  you will see truly what you need to change. 

what is tension ?

When you see a small baby, you can see only love, trust and curiousity. Their responses to stimuli are pure, because they have had no conditioning otherwise. A baby is usually trusting,fearless and completely relaxed. There are two instincitive fears we are born with however, the fear of fire and loud noises.

As we grow older we obtain memories and experiences , some of them not pleasing.
The darker memories can affect our emotional , psychological and physical well-being.Some of the experiences can create mild reactions..Whereas others can be so traumatic and haunting, that they affect the balance of EVERY aspect of our lives. These reactions cause us to obtain levels of tension throughout our bodies. That is what promotes the serious psychological and physical diseases.


The memories of these traumatic events cause us to feel we have to protect ourselves from further pain .. therefore we build up a large amount of tension.

The body has a way of memorizing and storing events , this creates bad posture,and promotes habitual behavior , ( addictive personalities) .
These imprints will stay with us until we CONSCIOUSLY change them

This is similar to the way we store our data in our hard drive . The only way to change it is to reprogram it .

Our body/mind storage can be viewed as a database , however our database has the ablility to be aware of this storage recepticle and then to choose the best way to correct or change the damaged data ,so to speak .

How does stress make us physically sick?

Stress is a term that describes the inability to deal with a great deal of pressure.

So how can that make us sick ?
it builds up over time.. and causes significant ailments.

1. insomnia
   
2. impotence,and decreased desire.
3. tense and sore neck and shoulder muscles- could lead to arthritis
4. constipation
   
5. headaches(tension , or migraine )
   
6. asthma
   
7. excema and psoriasis
8. heart palpitations
   
9. heart disease
10. anxiety attacks of all kinds(GAD)
    
11. shortness of breath , not taking deep breaths, a lot sighing
12. irritability and short temper
13. allergies , (sinus infections ,)
    
14. PMS
    
15. indigestion
    
16. obsessive behavior
17. eating disorders
    
18. rheumatic pain
    
19. catching viruses all the time , and viral infections lasting a long time
20. fatigue- chronic fatigue syndrome

for all the shiftworkers out there