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About Me
- kymm
- I am a 911 operator, I have been doing shiftwork for almost 20 years now. I have been through 2 divorces. I am a passionate person. I have dealt with stress in my life 10 fold. I did not know how to deal with it. It cost me my mental and physical health. I have learned through numerous methods how to live with stress. It is hard , very hard. I really want to help people to live their lives to their fullest potential. I have taken several courses on stress therapy and meditation. That only gives me the basics though , I have lived through it and came out on top.. I hope we can help each other.
My daughter and myself
this is NOT stressful .
Friday, May 22, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
These are my Rules -- follow them for stress reduction.
- Try , really hard.. to work no more that 10 hrs a day !
- Have at least 1.5 days off .--no work related tasks anyhow
- allow at least 1/2 hr for a meal - enjoy it , savour each bite - don't think about anything but your meal.
- eat is slowly - chew well - helps with digestion. seriously.
- try really hard to listen to some relaxing music - I personally love rock- classic rock however I will listen to music with no words , just nice rhythms . If you are not listening to the lyrics you can totally mind wash.
- practice meditation /relaxation techniques (check out my relaxation blog for tips http:kymmer7.webs.com ) - at least 2 times daily for 15 mins - I know this is hard, very. however even when you are driving car to work.. put on a relaxing c.d and don't think about anything causing anxiety - I will count that as 1 .
- ok - this one is hard , for me anyhow- try to walk , and talk and more slowly- there is no need to always be in a rush- slow and deliberate - concentrate on your words and your strides - just try this - it takes the edge off . In cultivating these steps you seem more relaxed , even if your not there yet - you are perceived that way.
- smile - respond with kindness to people .. it comes back two-fold. It makes you feel good about yourself -
- plan one trip a year - not work related - a relaxing , get a way from it all vacation- Don't let financial issues bog you down here - I know you are all out there saying , come on Kymm we don't have that kind of money - well first of all, this is one of the most important expenditures of the year- this is pertinent . Your well -being depends and deserves this.We all work hard, we all deserve a get-away -- DESERVE - (you can plan a retreat to go camping, or a couple of days at a cheaper lodging , as long as you are away from it all.
- Exercise, I am not going into too much detail here, we all know how essential excercise is! I am going to blog about some great relaxing exercises later on.
- please , please watch what you eat-- I know we all love our treats - however moderation moderation .. moderation- having a nice glass of red wine, or a piece of chocolate, or a hamburger is a great release- however the normal diet should be high in fruits, veggies and lean protein -- it helps so much when your digestion system is not taxed . Plus the energy you get from eating well helps alot in combating stress.
- Being a stress consultant , I can help people more 1 on 1 with this one... but please get help if something like mental issues (depression) or relationship woes are weighing you down . it is like walking around with a dark storm cloud over your head.. all the time..
- If you are unhappy are work look for alternatives - I know this is hard.. we will touch on this one later ..
- everyone has a hobby - something they enjoy doing - the key is to truly cultivate it.. work on it - if you enjoy painting then for goodness sakes paint- do not put it off , saying ah well I don't have time - That is a cop-out. Doing something you enjoy , even if it is as simple as loving American Idol - ( I love that show) , then love it.. Don't make excuses saying oh I should not indulge myself is some silly show I need to be more productive- I say come on . watch the show , enjoy it , sit back..
- do YOGA - I cannot push this enough! if anyone out there reading this knows any good yoga programs online please post on this blog ! Get a message , not everyday , just when you can . Even if it is from your partner - promise something in return.
- Concentrate on the here and the now - do not DWELL on the past ..you cannot change it everyone makes mistakes -learn from them and move on . Dwelling on the past are those mind toxins I was talking about earlier - They hinder us substantially.
- Express your feelings - I am not talking about being all dramatic and sappy - Just say what you feel ... especially to people you love.. this helps so much in getting your resentments out , again MIND TOXINS.
- Don't set yourself up to fail it only weighs on you heavily and causes you to think poorly of yourself when you don't succeed. Make realistic goals ,tasks and deadlines.
- BIG ONE HERE !! DO not rely on drugs , alcohol, blaming others..or any other props - in order to cope . ACCEPT full responsibility for your life... hear what I am saying here ..YOUR life.. not your employers, your spouse , your parents, your children -- your life. When you have a certain ACCOUNTABILITY you will see truly what you need to change.
Thursday, May 14, 2009
what is tension ?
When you see a small baby, you can see only love, trust and curiousity. Their responses to stimuli are pure, because they have had no conditioning otherwise. A baby is usually trusting,fearless and completely relaxed. There are two instincitive fears we are born with however, the fear of fire and loud noises.
As we grow older we obtain memories and experiences , some of them not pleasing.
The darker memories can affect our emotional , psychological and physical well-being.Some of the experiences can create mild reactions..Whereas others can be so traumatic and haunting, that they affect the balance of EVERY aspect of our lives. These reactions cause us to obtain levels of tension throughout our bodies. That is what promotes the serious psychological and physical diseases.
The memories of these traumatic events cause us to feel we have to protect ourselves from further pain .. therefore we build up a large amount of tension.
The body has a way of memorizing and storing events , this creates bad posture,and promotes habitual behavior , ( addictive personalities) .
These imprints will stay with us until we CONSCIOUSLY change them
This is similar to the way we store our data in our hard drive . The only way to change it is to reprogram it .
Our body/mind storage can be viewed as a database , however our database has the ablility to be aware of this storage recepticle and then to choose the best way to correct or change the damaged data ,so to speak .
As we grow older we obtain memories and experiences , some of them not pleasing.
The darker memories can affect our emotional , psychological and physical well-being.Some of the experiences can create mild reactions..Whereas others can be so traumatic and haunting, that they affect the balance of EVERY aspect of our lives. These reactions cause us to obtain levels of tension throughout our bodies. That is what promotes the serious psychological and physical diseases.
The memories of these traumatic events cause us to feel we have to protect ourselves from further pain .. therefore we build up a large amount of tension.
The body has a way of memorizing and storing events , this creates bad posture,and promotes habitual behavior , ( addictive personalities) .
These imprints will stay with us until we CONSCIOUSLY change them
This is similar to the way we store our data in our hard drive . The only way to change it is to reprogram it .
Our body/mind storage can be viewed as a database , however our database has the ablility to be aware of this storage recepticle and then to choose the best way to correct or change the damaged data ,so to speak .
Friday, May 8, 2009
How does stress make us physically sick?
Stress is a term that describes the inability to deal with a great deal of pressure.
So how can that make us sick ?
it builds up over time.. and causes significant ailments.
So how can that make us sick ?
it builds up over time.. and causes significant ailments.
- insomnia
- impotence,and decreased desire.
- tense and sore neck and shoulder muscles- could lead to arthritis
- constipation
- headaches(tension , or migraine )
- asthma
- excema and psoriasis
- heart palpitations
- heart disease
- anxiety attacks of all kinds(GAD)
- shortness of breath , not taking deep breaths, a lot sighing
- irritability and short temper
- allergies , (sinus infections ,)
- PMS
- indigestion
- obsessive behavior
- eating disorders
- rheumatic pain
- catching viruses all the time , and viral infections lasting a long time
- fatigue- chronic fatigue syndrome
Thursday, May 7, 2009
relaxation therapist
I want to be able to help people learn to relax, I have several proven techniques . They are innovative and unique , but the WORK.
stay tuned.. I blog the ideas I have and we call all try them ,
stay tuned.. I blog the ideas I have and we call all try them ,
Ok.. I don't know what is wrong today... I am very stressed out and anxious . The key is knowing what is bothering you.
That is very difficult sometimes , but it helps you figure out the stress's. I think once you can figure that out .. it is easier to address what is stressing you out.I know at times I could not identify what was ailing me. I realize now it was stress and I let it build up... then you become sick. (viruses, lethargy,fatigue, mild fever) .
Today I know I am feeling anxious , things are bothering me more than usual, I am irritable. IDENTIFYING these emotions, and why they are rising to the surface helps to combat them .
So I have to go do some deep breathing ...and light some scented candles and figure out what triggered my anxiety.
Kymm
That is very difficult sometimes , but it helps you figure out the stress's. I think once you can figure that out .. it is easier to address what is stressing you out.I know at times I could not identify what was ailing me. I realize now it was stress and I let it build up... then you become sick. (viruses, lethargy,fatigue, mild fever) .
Today I know I am feeling anxious , things are bothering me more than usual, I am irritable. IDENTIFYING these emotions, and why they are rising to the surface helps to combat them .
So I have to go do some deep breathing ...and light some scented candles and figure out what triggered my anxiety.
Kymm
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
shift work
I really want to comment on how shift work adds so much more stress to your body.. I love to hear from nurses,doctor,fireman,officers,factory workers,police communicators and dispatch, 911 operators-- anyone who works on a schedule that includes night shifts .
I want to hear how you cope, how your family copes . How is your physical health ?
Is is worth it? I have some tips and advice and I am a sounding board for the rigors of stress related to upsetting your bodies circadian rhythms.. lets talk !
I want to hear how you cope, how your family copes . How is your physical health ?
Is is worth it? I have some tips and advice and I am a sounding board for the rigors of stress related to upsetting your bodies circadian rhythms.. lets talk !
Monday, May 4, 2009
Sunday, May 3, 2009
stress holds you back
Research now states that emotions and mindsets are undeniably connected to professional and personal well-being.
Unfortunately our negative experiences do NOT disappear .
They manifest themselves when you try to excel in life or make some changes.
These form our stresses and can stop you from getting ahead !
I'd like to refer to these as TOXIC MINDSETS .They are so ingrained into our being and can be so subtle and accepted. The mindsets can influence how you conduct yourself, how you run your life . This causes more stress, and the toxins become embedded into your cells producing a wall that stops you from moving ahead.
They can actually prevent you from even knowing the steps .
Unfortunately our negative experiences do NOT disappear .
They manifest themselves when you try to excel in life or make some changes.
These form our stresses and can stop you from getting ahead !
I'd like to refer to these as TOXIC MINDSETS .They are so ingrained into our being and can be so subtle and accepted. The mindsets can influence how you conduct yourself, how you run your life . This causes more stress, and the toxins become embedded into your cells producing a wall that stops you from moving ahead.
They can actually prevent you from even knowing the steps .
Friday, May 1, 2009
what is the definition of stress? According to chambers dictionary it means
1. pressure
2. urgency
3. strain
4. violence (eg stress of circumstance)
5 . system of forces operating over an area .
Stress has really only been in issue in the last 20 yrs .
In the rapid growth our society and modern technology, so it is now a "symptom"of our times . These technical changes and then consequential changes in our lifestyles have taxed our human resources , as well as enviornmental resources. However physiologically we , as a race have not changed.
Our bodily functions and our basic needs for survival remain as they always have been..shelter , food , warmth love activity and rest and creative freedom. These are fundamental aspects of human life.
so how do we compete with all the other demands, when the basic ones are trying at times?
1. pressure
2. urgency
3. strain
4. violence (eg stress of circumstance)
5 . system of forces operating over an area .
Stress has really only been in issue in the last 20 yrs .
In the rapid growth our society and modern technology, so it is now a "symptom"of our times . These technical changes and then consequential changes in our lifestyles have taxed our human resources , as well as enviornmental resources. However physiologically we , as a race have not changed.
Our bodily functions and our basic needs for survival remain as they always have been..shelter , food , warmth love activity and rest and creative freedom. These are fundamental aspects of human life.
so how do we compete with all the other demands, when the basic ones are trying at times?
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